I am just - flat out - far too easily affected by other people's opinions of me. For better AND for worse. *sigh*
(praying that I will be mercifully minded, and let ill-will/intent just...."roll off my back" (or "bounce off my shield" - pick your analogy).)
I would rather be <externally> governed by kindness! I never cease to be amazed at how much work that actually is! And I am grieved by how so-very-often I just utterly fail to be kind, especially in the face of a perceived injustice.
Sin-In-Me riles up so quickly desiring respect/admiration and - in the lack thereof - MY version of "justice" or retribution. Proverbs says, "When a man's ways are pleasing to the LORD, he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him." I would wish that this could be said of me, but sometimes....especially when confronted by offensive behaviors that are so seemingly unfounded!....I just rise up with such a vicious desire for self-defense - wishing not merely to "protect" my reputation, but PROVE the evil-intent of the <attacker> and PROVE the care-full-intent and reasoning from my own heart. I assume the best about myself, but am so quick to judge others by the standard, merely, of not only their behavior, but by also assuming the worst about their intent! The only explanation is that in my heart, I think I somehow "DESERVE!" their good opinion. I have a "right" to it - I have "earned" it....which really exposes not only pride, but my "craving" for importance. In truth, it is its own idolatry still rooted deeply in my heart. :(
I want to be able to say "This ought not be!" and then I find that I am convicted by the Spirit, and grateful that the Lord nevertheless allows these things to unfold in such a way as to expose the "evil-intent" of my OWN heart to myself, that I would be desiring such...."excellence" mingled with "hypocrisy" rather than captivated by a genuine humility.
(trying to recover from some offensive maneuvers by a co-worker in the past few days. regretting that it affects me so readily! praying instead that I will allow the "offense" to be a means by which I cultivate greater humility and "end up at" being able to exercise kindness (or "tenderheartedness") with this person, nevertheless.)